I can’t say this enough: language matters. Count the number of times you use negative sentences in a day. “We don’t have this. She’s not doing it the way we want. I can’t do that because they’re not letting me.”
I worked long and hard at turning all my language around to the positive. I’d say, “It would be great to find a way to get this. I’m hoping we can help her execute more the way we’re thinking. I’m working on removing some roadblocks.”
If you talk yourself out of things, it will always work.
From a great blog post by Chris Brogan, here.