I can’t say this enough: language matters. Count the number of times
you use negative sentences in a day. “We don’t have this. She’s not
doing it the way we want. I can’t do that because they’re not letting
I worked long and hard at turning all my language around to the
positive. I’d say, “It would be great to find a way to get this. I’m
hoping we can help her execute more the way we’re thinking. I’m working
on removing some roadblocks.”
If you talk yourself out of things, it will always work.
"...most times, people are a bit more comfortable taking risks they know
others have taken and accomplished. It’s those “jumping when no one has
ever done it” risks that raise the bar. The thing is, that’s where the
biggest reward comes from."
It's a myth to believe that the factors beyond your control are what make you feel powerless.
Focusing on what you can't control makes the most powerful person weak, whereas focusing intensely on what you can control - to the exclusion of what you cannot control - will always make you stronger.
"The people around us so often need help. But how to give it the wise way - that's the question. If you simply hand things to somebody you destroy his pride, and when you do that you destroy him. Let him take charity and he comes to expect charity. If he gets a bag of flour the first time, you have to give him another on the second visit, and the third time he'll look for more than that. But if you can lend him seed and tools and let him make his own crops, he'll keep his self-respect..."